Spending Holidays With Family And Friends - Too Much, Too Little, Or Just Right?

September 11, 2013

Speaker: Sharsheret’s Clinical Supervisor Shera Dubitsky, MEd, MA

For many, the holidays are a time to spend with family and friends.  However, this aspect of the holiday season can come with challenges.  The tips below can help you overcome these challenges.

  • Sometimes you may choose to withhold information about your treatment or health for various reasons.  Though this can be the right decision based on your circumstances, it can also take a lot of energy to contain this information.  Factor this in when preparing for the holiday.
  • Arrange to call or visit a friend or family member who you can speak openly with during the holiday so that you have an outlet to speak freely.
  • Decide how much information you wish to share and present it in a way that feels most comfortable.
  • Don’t feel pressured to share more than you were prepared to share. It’s okay not to answer every question.
  • Set emotional and physical boundaries that enable you to feel more comfortable.
  • Take care of your needs and clearly communicate your needs to family and friends.
  • Teach people how you wish to be treated.  They will follow your lead.
  • Create time and space for yourself.
  • Learn from your past experiences.  You know your family and friends’ characters and behaviors.  Have reasonable expectations based on what you know.
  • You can’t control what people say and how they behave. The meaning and importance you give it is up to you.
  • Getting together with friends and family doesn’t need to be limited to the holidays.  Be proactive in making plans and carving out time to spend with loved ones.

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